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The
search for your special someone
Christopher
DeLorenzo, Match.com
There's
no denying it: Members of the gay and lesbian community are significant
contributors to the community of online dating. Almost all reputable
internet personals sites include same sex matches. In this busy
world where meeting quality people is often difficult, online dating
is a great option. But before you start checking out the profiles
online — or even create your own free profile — let's
consider what most of us are looking for in a date.
Honesty
is the only policy
First, it's important to represent yourself honestly. If we agree
to meet and you've gained fifty pounds since you posted your photo,
neither of us is going to get what we want. I'll expect to see someone
with a different body and face, and you won't be accepted right
off the bat for who you really are. Consider posting more than one
photo, so those who are interested can see you three-dimensionally.
Others
will read what you write
Secondly, write with an even, friendly tone. I made the mistake
of making my first profile very serious and too long; I sounded
somewhat annoyed when I wrote things like: "I'm not into watching
TV” and “I don't want to just sit around all weekend"
Unfriendly stuff. So guess how many responses I received? Zero.
Remember,
this is your potential partner's first impression. Most of us are
looking for friendly openness in a profile. And because it's intimidating
to make that initial contact, write with the intent of attracting
the type of match you want.
Presentation
is key
The key to writing a good profile is communicating a sense of who
you are and what you're looking for in a dating relationship. Tell
the truth — not what you think people want to hear. Try asking
someone to proofread your profile for you; feedback from someone
you trust can be very helpful in creating an attractive description
of yourself.
With
these tips in mind, you'll create a profile — or read other
profiles — in a way that helps you find what you're searching
for: someone with whom you can share yourself. Post your free
profile today!
The
search for your special someone by Christopher DeLorenzo
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