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5
things not to reveal on the first date
By Christopher DeLorenzo
It's
happened to all of us: You're excited about that first date, but
it ends up being a total disaster. You may have a good laugh about
it later, but right now all you can ask is, “What happened?"
It’s simple, really: You gave away too much information. Next
time, make sure you're prepared. Study this list of five things
never to reveal before the second date.
1.
Past relationships
There's nothing worse than a date who talks incessantly about a
past love. “He treated me so badly” or “She was so
good to me.” Whatever the case, this one’s a no-brainer:
The first date is not the time to drone on about all of your past
love affairs.
2.
How many other people you're dating
This always feels icky. It's as though you’re saying, “This
is a competition, and you’re falling behind.” C'mon! You
can't possibly compete with strangers nor should you feel you have
to. If your date catches you playing this game, say goodbye to date
#2.
3.
You're looking for an immediate commitment
I'm not knocking a common desire that many of us have, but your
date will feel your desperation. If you spend your first dates scrutinizing
a potential match for commitment potential, you’ll be in the
first-date dating game for a long, long time.
4.
How much you hate your parents
We all have conflicts with our families, and most of us understand
that family issues inevitably appear in intimate relationships as
well. Don't misrepresent yourself, but don't vent about your family
in front of a date. It's bad form — and it could be interpreted
by your date as a sign of things to come.
5.
How much you hate your job
The wonderful thing about our world today is that many people make
several career changes in their life. If we're unhappy in our current
profession, we always have the option of creating change. Monologues
about how you feel "stuck" or stagnant certainly won't
inspire confidence in your ability to respond effectively to negative
life situations.
Don’t
keep it too light on the first date; it's great to talk about political
opinions and other serious issues when you're getting to know someone
new. How else will you figure out what you have in common? But keep
in mind that if you're doing most of the talking — and if what
you're talking about is mostly negative, you're probably not going
to have a second date.
And
please don't make me say, "I told you so."
5 things
not to reveal on the first date by Christopher DeLorenzo
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